Eleanor Cowan


This site is dedicated to readers of my memoir, A History of a Pedophile's Wife - a book I wrote not to feature the pedophile, but to discuss the profile of the kind of partners pedophiles usually select. 

Readers are welcome to email me at the 'contact me' link with your reflections, personal stories or questions. 

Below is the formal introduction to my memoir by American Playwright Carolyn Gage: 

A History of a Pedophile's Wife : Publication Date: December 12, 2013

“How could a mother not know?” This is a question often asked about families where incest has occurred, and Eleanor Cowan’s gripping memoir, A History of a Pedophile’s Wife, steps up with answers that are courageous and heartbreaking. Cowan grew up in Quebec in the 1950s, in a large Roman Catholic family with a lethal mix of violence, addiction, and toxic pedagogy. Cowan details the dance of a survivor moving into adulthood: one step forward towards freedom, two steps back into conditioning, until a tipping point of consciousness is reached. As her memoir makes clear, that tipping point is not just a critical mass of abuse or even a touchstone of personal growth. It requires an enlarged and feminist context, permission to know the unknowable, and language to name the unspeakable.

Cowan’s book is a primer in compassion, especially for those of us who were abused as children and left to struggle with legacies of distrust and rage towards our mothers. It’s a vivid indictment of a mother-blaming culture that protects the very institutions that perpetuate child abuse.